Aggression

“The brain region most involved in feeling afraid and anxious is also most involved in generating aggression.” - Robert Sapolsky

It's really hard in the moment to comfort a child who is violent, rather than reprimand. It can look so strange to people when I act as a parent in a way which many would see as being too soft to my children who are affected by the trauma related to DV.

The key for me is to love the fear from them and make them feel safe rather than to shout and become aggressive myself.

This is the same technique I use when supporting children who are Pathologically demand avoidant. Ignore how they present aggression and simply make them feel as safe as possible by following their lead.