You are the Captain.
Having a child is the start of a journey.
It is a never ending journey. You board the boat when they are born and you just have to keep paddling.
For a family who are dealing with services and Local authorities, Education welfare officers, teachers, professionals, it’s like being on the boat and going through constant rapids and having random folk on shore shouting at you, giving you advice. Sometimes it’s helpful, sometimes it makes it harder to navigate. Sometimes you feel like the boat has hit land and you get stuck, but you are still on the journey and the boat will move again.
The thing is, once you realise this journey has no end, no finish line, it can make the journey easier to bare, because you slow down and start to find small wins along the way.
When I first became a loan parent I felt like my copilot had jumped ship. I didn’t feel like I could cope, I begged and prayed for someone new to join me. I became low and angry. But I...