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Just Breathe

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I needed this 2.5yrs ago. I looked at my situation and felt absolutely desolate.. I would sit alone and cry all the time. I was medicated and could not see the path ahead as anything but, more of the same old shit... I had decided my life would be a constant battle..

But one spark in me knew I wanted more than that. I found an amazing life coach and I worked with her, so I could start to see how my life could move on in a more positive way. Nina Farr is the coach and I would recommend her from the bottom of my heart.

Even when you think there is nothing that could change for the better.. believe me there is.. Its just you are so stuck in patterns of behaviour, guilt, anger, sadness.. that those changes and possibilities are hidden from you.

I was so exhausted, busying myself.. doing all the wrong things..

Now I have focus. You cannot change the physicality of your situation. I am and always will be someone who has 4 young children, by 2 fathers, I lone parent 99% of the time and I am a victim of abuse who has resulting social anxiety and trauma.

I am the survivor of an eating disorder and mental health concerns for most of my young life and I have not always been the parent I thought I would be. I have been angry and exhausted, drunk too much wine, behaved manically and also shed way too many tears in front of my kids. They have seen me beaten and screaming and also seen me fight back for our safety.

2yrs ago I took a deep breath. I re-focused. I now run a successful organisation, helping others and pretty much live my best life. I’m still mega full of energy and passion. I still have anxiety, I still feel tired and I still cry.

I’m not searching for the golden ticket anymore to take away my pain or exhaustion. I know by creating my own small steps, I can do this myself and make each day a joy in some small way.

Half term might be an absolute ordeal for you and your family. You may have had admin that scares you, drop through your door. You may have children who you simply can’t work out, as well as your own mind to cope with...but...

You can do this!!

If you need any guidance or support. PM me. I’m always listening and I can signpost you on to other services.

Take a breathe. Get outdoors if you can. Even open the front door and look at the sky.

Only you can change your life.

You have the power x

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